Hey knowitall,

To answer your question, first off you need CONFIDENCE, CONFIDENCE, CONFIDENCE, oh did we mention CONFIDENCE to pick up any girl in any club or bar whether they’re just an average looking girl or the hottest girl in the place. Women love a confident man. Now, forget all you know about picking up women in clubs. Pickup lines DO NOT work. Women have heard them all, and they’re not impressed by them at all. Here’s what you need to do to break the ice with a hottie in a bar or club. Walk up to her, stand up straight (shows your confidence), don’t play with your hands, don’t touch her at all, just look her straight in the eyes, smile, and say Hi. After she says Hi back, you need a conversational opener to break the ice. Conversational openers are a lot more effective than standard pickup lines because they give you the opportunity to engage her in a somewhat substantial conversation right off the bat.

Here are two conversational openers you can use on a girl in a club:

The Opinion conversational opener – Ask her opinion on a subject. Women love to give their opinions no matter what the subject. Walk up to her and say “Can I bother you for a second for a little advice?” and ask her opinion on anything (be creative), be funny, charming, HAVE SOMETHING to say back to her, and after some light conversation, a couple of laughs along the way, offer to buy her a drink.

The Women’s Perspective conversational opener – Walk up to any girl, and tell her that you’re writing a school paper or that you write for an online men’s magazine (works great by the way) and that you really need a women’s perspective on a subject. Ask her the question, and after she answers it, offer to buy her a drink as a thank you for helping you out, then continue the conversation, MAKE HER LAUGH (very important), and then confidently ask her for her phone number.

These two conversational openers will surely break the ice with most women in a club/bar no matter what you look like as long as you approach them confidently. Look, some women will always brush you off because some women are looking for a certain type, are gold diggers, or are just plain bitches. Don’t worry about it, there are always plenty more women in bars and nightclubs who are willing to talk to you.